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Cutter's Log - Stardate 2102.60.90
Current Song - Love Is (Herb Alpert)

I think I got it now.

When my classmates had their little girlfriends, they started out as just friends that were girls.

To think it took me 15 years to realize this.

I have struggled with making friends over the years.

So it all starts with establishing friendships. When it comes to friends and other people, I think there are 5 kinds of friendship. This will look silly, but is the easiest way I can describe it:


1. The one-off meeting: Which is common for me when interviewing people for sports stories.

2. Your surroundings: Those that are around you constantly, my schoolmates, sportswriting colleagues and co-workers/customers.

3. Friends: Just like #2, but you'll talk to them maybe once or twice weekly within or outside of the common surrounding.

4. Good Friends: Just like #3, but the meetings occur more often. You do things together regularly.

5. Best Friends: You are literally inseperable, and such a bond is determined to last forever.


When it comes to girls, #5 pretty much means we were meant for each other. I think what it takes to find your true love is to achieve that #5 level. I look at this list and all of the girls that I know, and over time only a few #3's come to mind. I'd say most of the people I know fall under #2. Getting to that #3 level is where I struggle quite a bit.

It would be foolish to try to push these up the ladder just to find true love. I've come to realize that these things should happen naturally. This build-up process is how I believe it happens.

I guess I was an idiot back then. Call this a different process in this search. I should have done this years ago.